As New Year resolutions start to be on my mind, I have one resolution in particular that I'm going to try and work on in 2013. And that's listening more even when I want to say "I told you so". It's been a hard lesson to learn for me. Living with JT for the last 3 years, we've learned so much about each other. It wasn't easy all the time, and still isn't, but we continually learn and grow from each other.
When he has a problem I offer up my advice. I tell him what I think and give warnings and tell him what I think he should do. Most of the time we bounce ideas off each other on how to fix whatever problem it is, be it work, an employee, or a family member issue.
The more I step back and look at things I realize I have a tendency to say "That's why I told you...", "Remember when I told you to...", "I told you this was going to happen and that's why..." whenever something happens contrary to what he thought was going to happen.
I feel like sometimes I'll tell him something, give him advice, and he'll brush me off. Won't listen to me. Then like a few days later he'll come to me and say "Yeah so I was talking to so-and-so and they said to do this and I think it's a good idea." More often than not, it's the exact same thing I had told him a few days before. So frustrating. And I now know why my mom would get irritated at me for the exact same thing.
It's really hard for me to bite my tongue and not get mad and say I told you so. I have this thing in my brain that just tells me to keep on making my point and sometimes it gets me into trouble.
I'm actively trying to remind myself to stop and listen more. When something happens, and I predicted it, instead of validating my point and myself..I'm going to try and just listen to what he thinks about it and what he wants to do. Anyways..just something on my mind this morning.
This weekend we had a lot of fun. Starting with my decorating of my Aunt Jo's room at the old folks home. I got all this stuff from the dollar store in case it broke or one of the other residents "accidentally" took it to their room. We watched some good movies, with Brady Dog on my lap and our Xmas tree all lit. We headed out to Olive Garden for a company Christmas party and of course we went to the 2nd to last Cardinals home game of the season. Lots of good times and looking forward to this week.
I've got an interview this morning (fingers crossed!) and then lots of Xmas parties and family get togethers in the days ahead. Yay for the holidays!